Faith Middleton Show: The Liar In Your Life
The Way to Truthful Relationships

In The Liar in Your Life, psychology professor Robert Feldman, one of the world's leading authorities on deception, draws on his immense body of knowledge to give fresh insights into how and why we lie, how our culture has become increasingly tolerant of deception, the cost it exacts on us, and what to do about it. His work is at once surprising and sobering, full of corrections for common myths and explanations of pervasive oversimplifications.
Feldman examines marital infidelity, little white lies, career-driven resumé lies, and how we teach children to lie. Along the way, he reveals-despite our beliefs to the contrary- how it is nearly impossible to spot a liar (studies have shown no relationship between nervousness, lack of eye contact, or a trembling voice, and acts of deception). He also provides startling evidence of just how integral lying is to our culture; indeed, his research shows that two people, meeting for the first time, will lie to each other an average of three times in the first ten minutes of a conversation.
Feldman uses this discussion of deception to explore ways we can cope with infidelity, betrayal, and mistrust, in our friends and family. He also describes the lies we tell ourselves: Sometimes, the liar in your life is the person you see in the mirror. With incisive clarity and wry wit, Feldman has written a truthful book for anyone who whose life has been touched by deception.





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Hey Faith, Great point to
Hey Faith,
Great point to bring up lying in the context of the Holocaust. I think it brings to light that lying is an essential part of warfare. This is an idea even espoused by the ancient military philosopher, Sun Tsu. Deception is useful in warfare, with the Trojan horse, espionage, or preemptive strikes coming to mind, but just as much in less militaristic scenarios that are nonetheless competitive, ie. sports, business, or politics. A lasting horror of the Holocaust, in my opinion, is how it forcibly stripped humanity down to it's barest struggle- that of competitive, grizzly survival. It's interesting to think whether all lying is an act of competition, especially with regards to "the white lie." Our moral qualms with lying would rest upon how we value the person we're lying to; "Do I want to compete with this person or do I want to cooperate with her?" Great show- provocative, as you can tell. Haha. Take care.
- Zaker
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